Whether you are in therapy or out of it, assertiveness training has many benefits. In fact, assertiveness training is one of the most widely used personality development strategies. It can improve communication skills, leadership skills, assertiveness, assertive behavior, communication skills, interpersonal skills, confidence, and adaptability. In today's workplace, assertiveness training can help improve job performance and promote productivity. Some of these benefits include:
* Developing Assertiveness Skills - One of the main goals of assertiveness training is developing skills in how to be assertive effectively. This includes understanding and knowing how to express your needs and wants, creating a role-play scenario, creating and following a script, practicing assertive communication, understanding and controlling anxiety, and learning assertive techniques such as eye contact. While role-play and actual practice of these techniques is not necessary, they certainly help enhance your skills and gain an edge in assertiveness. Furthermore, role-play scenarios that reinforce the skills reinforce them in your mind. As you practice them, your mind starts to think like you do them regularly.
* Reducing Passive Behavior - When you receive feedback or instruction, you can respond in a variety of ways, including passive, active, or alternating, positive feedback, negative feedback, or ignoring the feedback. Some people have difficulty being assertive or doing assertiveness when their lives or work situations are tense, chaotic, or anxious. This type of environment requires a person to be very careful about what messages they send and how they convey those messages. With the help of assertiveness training, you can learn to express yourself assertively in these types of settings, thus, effectively reducing passive behavior. Additionally, assertiveness training can also help you perform better and handle stressful interpersonal situations in your life.
* Assertiveness Training for Perfect Rightness - The idea that you can be both right and wrong at the same time is just plain old post-modern thinking. Albert Einstein said, "I think I was wrong, but I can never feel I was right." I find that Albert Einstein was correct on both counts when he stated, "If you want to be right, you have to do something wrong... if you want to be wrong, then do something right." It seems like this old aphorism has been making its rounds throughout many of my life coaching clients, but rarely do I see clients cite exactly why they think they aren't right or wrong.
Through various forms of assertiveness training, I've found that people are often resistant to trying new things in fear of failure or being labeled a know-it-all. Many people have become frustrated by trying to make changes in their lives in places they perceive to be non-contributory because they don't know whether they will get along with the new techniques, how it will work, or if it will work at all. This is where I see many of these clients settle in and start taking the techniques, regardless of how well they may actually work. The belief is that if they just take the first step, then they will be OK with everything, but nothing could be further from the truth.
You must approach assertiveness training with your personal needs in mind. What might seem silly to others might be wildly different than what really matters to you. For example, how would you react if you walked into a grocery store and felt anxious, nervous, irritable, or even downright angry at someone? If you are trying to change a negative interpersonal emotion, such as anger or resentment, you will likely need to learn to redirect that energy away from the object of your displeasure. You need to feel good about the situation rather than bad about it so that you can change the behavior and the emotions that you are feeling.
Another important aspect of assertiveness training deals with your social skills. There are many people who get uncomfortable when new people enter a room, sit down with them, or start conversing with them. When you have a few basic social skills down pat, you can gain the confidence to open up to others and not feel as if you are being judged. Your new friends will enjoy spending time with you and even invite you out more often, because you do not appear to be so intimidating. Positive social skills training program can help you develop your own sense of self-esteem and assertiveness.
Remember that if you do not practice self-esteem and assertiveness training, you may be leaving yourself open to negative and potentially dangerous behaviors. For example, if you frequently argue with your kids or use harsh words, this may lead to depression and anxiety if you do not learn how to deal with your emotions in a non-negative way. On the other hand, if you don't learn how to listen to your kids when they are being negative, they may never learn to listen to you when you are being assertive in a situation. Both styles can be dangerous to your mental and physical health. Fortunately, there are many resources online that you can look into to learn about these important skills for self-esteem and assertiveness training.